It was year 2018 in February, I was in my third semester of my MS at La Trobe University in Melbourne when I met Jafar. I was heading towards my uni for morning lectures and a van arrived in front of the door of building B. Guy wearing a royal blue jacket got down and was unloading the stuffs from the van. I walked out of the building and headed to the glider bus stop (a bus service for university students).
While unloading the stuffs he saw me and smiled. I smiled too. He asked “This is unilodge B correct?” “Yeah that’s correct!” I replied. He further asked do you stay here?” I said “Yeah, I stay here, on second floor, I have to rush for my lecturers” He smiled and said “Cya”
Thats all. Thats how we initially met. Since it was a start of a semester there were very few students in the hostel and I used to hardly catch up with anyone. I’m not sure if that was the same day or the day after. We spoke about few minutes regarding our course curriculum. He was pursuing bachelor’s in health science while I was to pursue Masters in IT. Latter we kept meeting in the kitchen. Discussed lot of things about engineering, science even about the universe, how it works, law of attraction and how it works, and then he emphasised how cigarettes are injures our health and how it creates tar in our liver, after sometime he left for smoking 
; “I am going for smoking.” he said “Ah! you are taking tar in? carry on!” I replied and he laughed.
Well, I don’t think there was any topic that we didn’t discuss. We used to have breakfast or even sometimes dinner together. He was completely focused on his studies,sorted in life, and was very intelligent person I have met after long time. I certainly felt good about it. There was Rananjay,from Rajasthan India; he was his roommate and they were quite good with each others. Anyway, that was the good semester we’ve had together.
Later I understood from his behavioural changes that something is changed and we stopped talking with each other from August 2018 till date. It was hardly 6 months of friendship and today it’s been 6 years that he is still asking me to come back. He has completed his bachelors, masters, doctorate and I am happy for it.
Nevertheless, I still question myself what was that which has made him changed drastically? His behaviour was completely unacceptable to everyone and which is why I stopped talking to him. Now when I look back I keep questioning it repeatedly; isn’t it obvious? Person who once had a poster of Albert Einstein in his room, who once had a book shelf in his room with almost all the books available, surprisingly, including Project Management, how is it possible to change so drastically ! I had borrowed couple of books (I don’t remember the names) and a bottle of beer and enjoyed reading in my room.
How well we got along as best friends, at least for a few months! Human psychology is such that, if we are compatible, you will become genuinely or platonically attached to the person you are with!
Now intent of writing all this is that people who have come from this class who are educated, intelligent, work hard, sorted and have achieved certain levels in their lives, what makes them change their minds, in such a way that they keep drowning towards things even-though, they are aware, that those things could cause a collateral damage to their lives! It’s not about any Nation or any country or not even about religion, ethical/ unethical, humane/inhumane, right/wrong, good/bad.
It’s only about our most precious Life! How can we take it as a granted? “डर के आगे जीत है “ agreed but “वो तब है जब वो जीत celebrate करने केलिए हम ज़िंदा रहेंगे!“ Is it not? intending to be bold, certainly, but not at the expense of life. Whoever’s life it is! We should understand when to stop.
Well, from where all these thoughts came in? I watched a movie Baby John! Beautiful movie and star casts. Like a movie we were babies too while pursuing our studies. Baby Jeff who later had a beautiful girlfriend baby Jenny. anyway long story short, a movie is a reflection of our lives, stories of people who have faced the hardest-ships of their lives we never know.
DCP Satya Varma, brilliantly played a character who gives the justice to the parents of a girl who was brutally raped; but whats even amazing is he as a Father! He tries almost everything to protect his baby and I think thats what comes first, protect your people, your family, your children, your spouse, your parents, your friends or people whoever are close to you; they’re in our Nation not in the Nation.
Jafar(Baby Jeff) was a simple guy, he is a simple guy if we allow him to be so; and if we stop stretching the things unnecessary just to prove the other wrong. My Ex-Boss, I don’t know what to say but yes, “वो उपरवाला ही था मेरेलिये” whose now has changed drastically!
Why, people? Let’s look back without pointing fingers at one another, please. I humbly ask. Everyone wants to have fun, including me, but only for fun and not to make any “धंदा” out of it. I love my profession and will be doing wherever I go.
We ought to forget and forgive. Live and stay happy.