I know being a mom is a most wonderful job. I truly congratulate all Moms who have been successfully handling this most captivating responsibility. I would like to congratulate my motherly husband for his current status ”Being a mother”, as he is successful in that role in my absence.
When I reached Melbourne for my Masters, I realized, staying away from the apple of my eye, my 3 years darling daughter Ira, was a deadly idea. Someone would have asked, “Didn’t you realized it before?” But then my answer would be “Though I agree that being a mother is the most blessed feeling in the world is that the end of life! Let me correct it a woman’s end of life?
In Indian society, there are plenty of women or shall I say highly educated mothers who have given up their careers, their passions, ambitions, and have entered into a cozy lifestyle (?) under the title of “Upbringing kids”! Perhaps they have no idea that they are losing their identity!!
“A woman without an identity always seeks the validation of her existence through a man.“
My mother was the most independent woman and my first role model. She told me two things: one to be a lady and the second to be a strong and independent lady, who will never depend, even on her husband. My dad was so lucky!
You have permission to be strong, to be smart, to learn or not to learn, to get married or to stay single, to have children or not to have children this is your life you have choices to be definite or vague!
I do Agree sometimes being strong you have to go for tough decisions but believe yourself, believe your instincts, instincts are there to bolster your inner strength, to make you stand alone for yourself, and standing alone doesn’t mean you are alone, it means you are strong enough to manage all things on your own.
“Don’t be a woman that needs a man, be a woman a man needs!”
For any married woman, especially an Indian woman, her family comes first, no matter what, she ropes in all possible ways for her loved ones, she levers all domestic and professional switches successfully.
She repetitively makes sure if her spouse, her children, family members are content, she tries to keep her surroundings alive; and at one point she forgets her existence! she forgets her self being! She forgets that she has the right to live as she wants, she has the right to dream and strive hard to turn them into reality.
I believe in a family that will push you to be with yourself, a family who will stand by you even when you want to stand alone.
My husband tried in all possible ways to make me stronger to pursue higher studies which I had dreamed of. He knew or was he sure that his lady won’t give up, even after blessed with a lovely gorgeous daughter! He stood by me, took initiative to kept my hard desire alive, and once again proved that he is my man. A real, gentleman who understands his wife’s scorching passion to excel in her career.
“A man is truly gentle if he understands a woman’s well-being.”
I took a decision, worked hard to get the best university for my studies. It took me all possible efforts, juggling to keep my home, my daughter up-to-date and at the same time to concentrate on studies. Girls,
“Either make your husband stand for you, or stand for yourself.”
Be your kids’ first role model, be his true Mom, he looks at you, grab your actions, and learns from them. If he is looking at her mom seating idle, not doing anything to keep her alive, he never understands the value of chasing life. Wake up, pursue your dream, be ambitious, put in all your energy, and keep your identity alive. Make yourself a powerhouse, the world will be with you.